Do you know that the clothes that you wear have a certain energy that you take on when you wear them? Different fabrics made up of different matter (materials) can affect your mood and how you feel, and of course different styles of clothing carry with them a certain vibe.
This is most likely not something you have ever given much thought to but it most certainly makes a difference in how the person wearing the clothing might feel. I say “might” because someone who is in alignment with who they truly are won’t be adversely affected in the same way that another who has not set intentions would.
Think about our military, or anyone attending a private school or working in a factory or even a hospital where individuals are required to wear a uniform. When you are made to feel less of an individual and more of “part of a group”, or maybe the uniform sets you apart as an authority figure, how do you think that can play a part in how you present yourself to the world?
This is not a post where I’m saying any of these groups of people are good or bad, just pointing out one example of how what you wear carries with it a certain energy.
I can tell you first hand that growing up and attending both private school and then public school, I noticed at an early age how what I was “allowed” or “supposed to” wear was a big part of my identity and how I felt about myself.
Wearing a uniform can make you feel like you are part of the group, and that you belong. It can also make you feel stifled and cause you to express your identity in other ways. When I was old enough to make my own decisions and could afford to dress how I wanted, it’s interesting to me the clothing that I found myself drawn to.
I absolutely love to wear a tailored jacket with jeans or pants, even shorts (if my legs have some sign of a tan of course). I have always felt more empowered and sophisticated when I put on a blazer and some heals.
For years I have been buying these type of outfits without really having someplace or even a reason to wear them. I spend most of my days at home with my dogs and my husband, walking, working out, attending yoga class and cooking, and pretty much my daily wardrobe consists of lululemon and sneakers.
For almost twenty years I worked in my family’s cafe and bakery business which did not require me to dress up in any sort of way and I mostly remember spending all of my money on my kids clothes for most of those years. I think I shopped at the Gap and Gymboree or Justice, and wore the same mom jeans and colorful tops for almost two decades. Perhaps this is why I am having so much fun expressing my personality now through fashion.
After my family sold the restaurants, I decided to get a job working in retail at a women’s clothing store that I had always wanted to shop at. I worked at White House Black Market for almost three years and those memories and the friendships I made during that time to me are priceless. I got to play dress up every day and help other women feel beautiful and help them choose just the right outfit for their jobs and their special occasions.
At that time, I couldn’t really afford the wardrobe that I dreamed of (and have today) because I was a single mom trying to support myself and two kids, but I so enjoyed that job and became one of the top saleswomen in the company as well as an assistant manager. This is the job that put that light inside of me and where I learned that I actually have a talent for helping others feel their best and my love for fashion really bloomed.
Fast Forward almost 10 years later, and I have quite the collection of jackets and my other obsession for beautiful dresses has grown into something any fashionista would be proud of. My husband would always ask me, “Where are you going in these gowns Michelle?” I would just smile and say, “I don’t really know yet, but they make me feel so happy when I think about wearing them.” Lucky for me, that answer was good enough for him.
It didn’t really dawn on me until early this year exactly what I was going to be doing that would require me to wear all these amazing outfits but I just smile and remember all of the times I was shopping for things that my future best self would be wearing. That is exactly the mindset that I had, and what I told myself to rationalize getting another dress or jacket. My future self is going to wear this.
If you have a clear vision of the lifestyle you want and take the steps in that direction, you will be surprised and delighted at all the ways the universe is lining up for you to live that life. So buy those outfits that you aren’t sure where you’re going in yet, and dream those dreams of your best self doing the thing that lights up your soul.
The world is yours, and you can show up as your best self wearing whatever makes you feel that way, so why not start today!