I remember 5 years ago on my 43rd birthday being so excited (but also so nervous) about giving myself the gift of Botox and a little lip and cheek filler. For years I said I would never be that woman. I was going to age gracefully and embrace every little wrinkle that showed up. I was going to accept that everyone gets older and that cosmetic injections were for other people that were not confident enough to be their authentic selves.
Meanwhile, I had been wearing hair extensions, and false eyelashes for years already. I had always loved experimenting with makeup and different hairstyles and it seemed like there were always improvements to be made in these areas.
I have always been a girly girl and love all things fashion and beauty. I’m not sure why I thought I needed to draw the line when it came to getting old and having wrinkles, or that losing volume in my lips and cheeks was going to be fine with me…but I told myself for years that I didn’t need that kind of “help”.
No one in my family (that I knew of) at that time had ever done any type of cosmetic fillers or injections and so I thought that I just needed to continue that tradition…? I mean that sounds completely ridiculous now that I’m actually typing the words but that is really what I told myself for years.
It really is alright if you choose something for yourself that no one in your family has done. It’s ok to be the first one to break out of the traditions that keep us from feeling our best. It’s ok to change your mind and you are allowed to want to keep a youthful glow and complexion well into your 40s, 50s, 60s, and into whatever age you decide. The key words here are YOU DECIDE. Don’t let the opinion of others get stuck in your head and keep you from doing the thing that makes you feel beautiful, or that makes you feel your best.
You are not here to please others and if their happiness depends on what you are doing, then you are actually doing them a great disservice in allowing them to believe that you hold the power to their happiness. Not everyone needs to weigh in on what you do with your life.
Know that you are going to make the best decisions for yourself and then go out and make yourself happy. When you do this, you are actually giving others permission to live their lives and to be happy as well.
Let me tell you that I am thrilled every day that I look in the mirror and don’t see an old woman looking back at me. I actually feel better in my forties than I did in my thirties. It also feels so good to be able to finally be free of what others think about the decisions that I make for myself.
When I finally realized I did not need to please anyone but myself, the whole world began to open up for me. You are free to decide what you want for your life and you are also free to change your mind.